How to Ask for Money Instead of Gifts for Your Wedding (Without It Being Awkward)

Traditionally, couples registered for blenders, toasters, and towel sets—but times have changed. Many modern couples already live together or have what they need, and what they really want is help funding their honeymoon, home down payment, or even future experiences.

If you’re wondering how to ask for money instead of gifts for your wedding without sounding rude, don’t worry—we’ve got you. Here’s how to make the request gracefully and tactfully.

1. Be Honest—But Kind

The most important thing is to be transparent while keeping the tone light and thoughtful. Let guests know that their presence is the best present, and if they do wish to give something, a contribution would mean the world.

Example wording:

“Your love and presence on our big day is all we could ever ask for! But if you’d like to honor us with a gift, we’d be grateful for a contribution to our honeymoon fund/home project/future adventures.”

2. Use a Cash Registry

Instead of putting a bank account on your invitations (which feels a little too transactional), use a secure online platform like:

• Zola
• Honeyfund
• The Knot Cash Funds
• MyRegistry

These let you set specific goals (“Help us book a couples massage in Maui” or “Contribute to our kitchen reno!”), which feels more personal and fun than a generic money request.

3. Include a Note on Your Wedding Website

If you have a wedding website, that’s the best place to explain your gift preferences in a dedicated section. Use friendly, casual language and explain your reasoning.

Example wording:

“We’ve been blessed with everything we need for this next chapter! Instead of traditional gifts, we’d love for you to contribute to our [honeymoon fund/home fund]. It would mean so much to us!”

4. Let Your Inner Circle Help Spread the Word

If you’re feeling shy about mentioning money directly, have your bridal party, parents, or close friends help communicate it for you when guests ask what to get. A word-of-mouth approach can be very effective and keeps it personal.

5. Don’t Mention It on Your Invitations

Avoid putting money-related requests directly on your formal wedding invites. Instead, include a short line that directs guests to your website, like:

“For all wedding details, please visit: [YourWeddingWebsite.com]”

That way, guests can find all the information—including your cash gift request—in a polite and indirect way.

Asking for money instead of gifts isn’t tacky—it’s just modern. Most guests want to give you something meaningful, and if what you truly need is help building your future, they’ll be happy to contribute.

Remember, it’s not about the amount—it’s about sharing the love in a way that makes sense for your life together.

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